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Family Biking: Beyond mama bear rage and toward healthier responses to bad drivers

Posted by on December 11th, 2018 at 11:51 am

Try “Wow, someone’s in a hurry” in place of “Slow the f— down!”
(Photos: Madi Carlson)

As the days get shorter, wetter, and colder it feels like more people are driving faster, less predictably, and more assholishly.

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I used to get all heated-up about people driving unsafely around me and my kids. You know, like a protective mama bear. Grrr. I once angrily pantomimed hanging up a phone at a woman talking on her cell while running a stop sign in front of us and I’ve even thumped the trunk of a car after its driver barreled into the crosswalk against a red light, coming within an inch of my front wheel.

The thing is, reacting angrily just leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth, not to mention doesn’t set the best example for my kids. So I’ve drastically changed my reactions. I’m not perfect and slip from time-to-time (mama bears gonna mama bear), but keeping my cool has vastly improved my quality of life despite still sharing some roads with people misusing two-ton battering rams.

Some diverters divert better than others.

The idea to write this column came to me last week when I watched a man drive his minivan over the diverters at SE 17th and Clinton. He approached the intersection very slowly and without signaling, so I assumed he couldn’t decide which way to turn. But as I rolled up to the median (where bicycle riders can cut through, but drivers can’t) he forced his car over the cement “barriers” next to me. I couldn’t help myself — my eyes went wide and my mouth dropped open as we passed one another. It wasn’t the calm reaction I’d like to display for my kids (fortunately they weren’t with me at the time).

Now I have a few go-to responses that make me seem more like a well-grounded mom than a raging mama bear.

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Smile and wave
Biking with my middle schooler four miles each morning exposes us to at least a couple people each day primed to skip their stop signs (usually crossing Clinton, which is a greenway for crying out loud!) until they notice us on the road. I smile and wave at them all as they belatedly stop and look chagrined. Initially this felt inauthentic, as if I was waving “Thanks for not killing us,” but it’s just so commonplace for people driving to ignore the right of way that I’ve accepted it as The Way Things Are. Now it’s a pleasant excuse to wave to someone who might wave back.

Speed bumps don’t really slow people determined to speed.

“Someone’s in a hurry”
When we see people speeding I’ve taken to saying, “Wow, that guy is really in a hurry.” I’ve gotten so good at it, I say it when I’m with other adults. I’ve even caught myself muttering it aloud when I’m all alone. It’s much easier on the soul than shouting, “Slow down!”

Making a game of counting red-light runners.

Tally the red-light runners
We bike out of our way to avoid using busy streets, but we can’t avoid crossing big ones. For the aforementioned four-mile middle school commute we cross three big streets with lights and two without. While waiting for our light to turn green we calmly count and comment on the people who drive through yellow and red lights. It really sucks how many people run red lights, but it serves as a good opportunity for me to remind my kids to always check the intersection, even when the light is green.

“That was scary”
I often think back to something Katie Proctor (co-founder of Kidical Mass PDX in 2010 and more recently proprietor of Books with Pictures comic book store) wrote years ago on Facebook. She presented the idea of saying, “You scared me!” as a way of sharing your feelings and acknowledging the severity of the situation without being so accusatory as to invite a defensive response. I checked in with her for an update since Facebook’s search function leaves a lot to be desired and I couldn’t remember exactly what she said back then. Here’s what she says now:

“These days, I might even lean toward ‘Wow, that was scary!’ over ‘You scared me,’ as a way to center your shared experience — whatever just happened probably scared the crap out of both of you — and that then gives you room to de-escalate: ‘Can we take a minute to catch our breaths before we talk about it?’ Which will make any following conversation more productive.”

I still love this sentiment, as well as her advice to train oneself to yell “You scared me!” — in place of what you might otherwise yell — to model good behavior in front of kids.

Obligatory word on safety
You know I don’t make a habit of talking about safety, but I do like to use appropriate opportunities to point out that intersections are The Worst. Two of the most common types of bike crashes are left hooks: when an oncoming car driver turns left into a person on a bike who was heading straight, and right hooks: when a person turns right, not noticing that there was a person on a bike to their right heading straight.

I love getting around by bike and feel carefree while doing it, but I also don’t trust anyone driving near me to notice me or to obey the law. I might look oddly suspicious as I check one-way roads for wrong-way drivers before I cross them and act stubbornly exasperated when I get into “you-go-no-you-go” hand waving wars with people who have failed to stop for me at intersections that I refuse to trust to now stay stopped.

Tl;dr: You can’t be too safe, but it doesn’t take any of the joy out of getting around by bike.

About that photo at the top of this post: It happened a week ago, and an hour after I’d nearly been plowed into in that very intersection. I’ve never been hit by a car, and this was the closest I’d ever come. Thank goodness the kids weren’t with me because I may have forgotten my collection of suitable reactions. I was only with my dog Pixie and I had to slam on my brakes to avoid being left-hooked by a woman I had mistakenly thought noticed me. I fumed for a while as I pedaled away. By the time my son and I got back and saw the aftermath of this crash I was able to take it in calmly with him. We surmised no one had been injured and I told him about my earlier near-miss. And then the subject switched to his latest hobby, making up titles for Avengers/Harry Potter mashup movies (“Avengers: Accio Wands!”) and things were the same as they ever were.

What about you? How do you react in these sorts of situations? Please share in the comments! Thanks for reading.

Remember, we’re always looking for people to profile. Get in touch if it sounds like fun to you. I’d especially like to feature families of color so please get in touch or ask friends of color who bike with their kids if they’re interested in sharing their stories. And as always, feel free ask questions in the comments below or email me your story ideas and insights at madidotcom [at] gmail [dot] com.

— Madi Carlson, @familyride on Instagram and Twitter

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dan
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dan

You know what I have come to hate recently? People who don’t come to a stop at stop signs, but just slow way down and creep forward as you pass in front of them. I never know if they actually see me, or if they’re just making a pro forma rolling stop before hitting the gas and knocking me off my bike. It seems like this is pretty much how people stop at stop signs now though, even with my brand new “I’m pretty damn sure you can see me” 800 lumen headlight.

Matt S.
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Matt S.

Pull in behind the car and you won’t have this problem. As bicyclists, I don’t think we’re entitled to the front because we can maneuver around. I know it sucks waiting for three or four cars to go ahead of you, especially if it’s heavy traffic, but that’s defensive riding. I understand it’s frustrating riding across town, riding a bicycle should eliminate us from having to wait in traffic, but stacking up at lights and stop signs is a place where I don’t mind waiting for traffic. I don’t like being in that situation where I ride alongside 5-10 cars stacked at the light, to get in the front, and then have to worry about all of them passing me while I try to squeeze between them on the left and cars parked on the right.

But aren’t you still going to be passed by all the people behind you, so why does it matter?

Because if you expect drivers to see bicycles as vehicular traffic, they’re going to expect you to queue up just like they are. We’re entitled to take the full lane, but I don’t think we’re entitled to ride around and cut to the front. You’re not allowed to do that when driving.

Another reason why we need protected bike lanes!

dan
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dan

I’m talking about me riding straight through an intersection where I have the right of way and a car entering the intersection from the left or right creeping through their stop sign as I pass in front of them. Like you, I usually don’t pass stopped cars on the right unless there’s a bike lane.

Matt S.
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Matt S.

Thanks for the clarification. I got on my soap box for a second.

Father Against Rude Transportation
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Father Against Rude Transportation

Pretty sure dan was referring to cross-traffic at two-way stops, not about cars stopping ahead of him at a stop sign.

Toby Welborn
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Toby Welborn

While you are sort of correct that bicycles should take the lane and wait in line at intersection, I the entitled comment really misses the mark. What is being called entitlement is either lack of knowledge or a safety issue. Bikes can stay to the right at intersections when there is a bike land but should take the lane on roads when there is not a bike lane [ Oregon Bicyclist Manual, p. 6]. The manual is available at https://www.oregon.gov/odot/programs/tdd%20documents/oregon-bicyclist-manual.pdf. As stated this is a “should” and not a “must” {making things confusing when safety is the main reason for taking the lane). Safety comes into question when drivers pass or attempt to pass immediately before entering or while in the intersection.

People on bikes do just as many stupid things as people in traffic but why do cyclists seem to be referred to as entitled. I am not taking a dig at Matt but this seems like a very strategically placed term that has crept into the lexicon when describing cyclists and commuters that instantly divides a situation or scenario into an “them versus us” position. Conspiracy hat off in 3, 2, 1….

mh
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Bike lane leading to a bike box is for exactly that.

Steve Smith
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Steve Smith

ORS 811.415.2.c
“Overtaking and passing upon the right is permitted if the overtaking vehicle is a bicycle that may safely make the passage under the existing conditions.”

In other words, you may pass on the right rather than wait in the queue of stopped cars.

billyjo
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billyjo

I hate walking into an intersection where I have the right of way, only to have a bike not even make an effort to stop for the stop sign.

Thomas Lindner
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Thomas Lindner

I found a solution to this problem… I know it is controversial but ever since I started using a light on my helmet I found creeping cars come to a dead stop and all I need to do is shine a little light in their direction.

mh
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At the driver, not just at the car.

J_R
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J_R

Things will only get worse until society decides we need some enforcement. There is virtually no traffic enforcement in Portland today.

Father Against Rude Transportation
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Father Against Rude Transportation

Agreed. Drivers can just do anything and park anywhere nowadays. I even saw a giant truck parked on the sidewalk this afternoon! Ridiculous. How am I supposed to push a stroller around that?

People need to be made to understand that there are consequences for their actions.

Middle of the Road Guy
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Middle of the Road Guy

Thank you for your creativity. Made me laugh.

Johnny Bye Carter
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Johnny Bye Carter

I remember having to push my stroller into the street because PFD Engine 25 thinks it’s cool to wash their firetruck on the sidewalk instead of in their parking lot.

OH! I just checked and it’s on Google Street View!

https://goo.gl/maps/neQVX4g69A22

We should not have to deal with this from a city department focused on safety. This is car culture at its worst.

Resopmok
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Resopmok

In these situations I often just call parking enforcement. The exceptions are if I forgot my phone, it’s past hours, or I truly do not have the two minutes to spare.

Matt S.
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Matt S.

This happens all over the city, you can’t enforce every intersection. I think the behavior comes from people being frustrated with how difficult it is to drive in the city. It takes a good 40 minutes to get accross the city. By the time you’ve reached your friends neighborhood to park, you’ve had to go through dozens of lights, waiting at some for two and three cycles, gone through numerous stop signs, dealt with terrible drivers and cyclists alike, road construction, and etc. Us cyclists are getting our wish of making it super difficult for people to drive, the side effect is proving to be costly for us though.

Middle of The Road Guy
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Middle of The Road Guy

It would be great if citizens could hand out tickets. And from an entertainment standpoint, there would be a lot more fist fights.

Father Against Rude Transportation
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Father Against Rude Transportation

I find drivers are more aggressive and honk more when I have my kid on the back of the bike. I don’t understand why; maybe it’s because I’m riding slower than usual? That being said, I usually ride assuming everyone is drunk and that usually works out well with the kid in town as well. Always put extra space between you and the cars – especially with those people who like to slowly creep into the intersection at stop signs (no idea why we can’t just ban parking at corners since that would improve sightlines immensely and end this problem)

I find it’s best to just keep a cool head and ignore dumb drivers. Try to brush off the idiocy. Much better for your mental health than getting upset at the daily encounters with stupidity.

Johnny Bye Carter
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Johnny Bye Carter

Parking close at corners is already illegal, but the city will rarely cite unless multiple people complain.

Opus the Poet
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The solution is not to involve law enforcement to prevent people from doing unwanted things that are still possible, but to make unwanted things physically impossible. This is the core of Vision Zero, to make wrecks physically impossible.

grrlpup
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grrlpup

I tell myself that the time for justice is not while I’m on the bike. Don’t expect it, don’t pursue it: humans gonna human. I’ve still had a couple of adrenaline-inducing events, but this has made me a lot less angry and frazzled at the end of my commute than I used to be.

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

The time for justice is later that night when you find the driver’s vanity plate on twitter and pay him a little visit.

Uh… I mean… not that I would.

Middle of The Road Guy
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Middle of The Road Guy

Obviously just random chance, HK.

Joe
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Joe

Awesome write up thank you, I was starting to feel like I was all alone with crazy things happening lately, oh on willams near freeway merge is pure nuts and someone is going to get hurt or killed, also anyone see the Natio stripping they just did that has all kinds of high sides and bumpy total shotty job.

Father Against Rude Transportation
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Father Against Rude Transportation

Yeah, they definitely applied the thermoplastic way too thick. Portland streets are bumpy enough on their own without the city actively putting in more bumps!

Paul H.
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Paul H.

> So I’ve drastically changed my reactions.

A good friend told me he consciously worked to change the one-finger salute to a peace sign, which came in handy one day when an acquaintance was the automobile driver who brought about the reaction. He was glad that bridge hadn’t been burned.

rain panther
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rain panther

I do the same, only with my thumb. I save the middle finger for when I absolutely and deliberately mean it (which turns out to be pretty rare), instead of using it reflexively like I used to.

rain panther
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rain panther

I also try, with varying degrees of success, to say something like “Be careful!” in place of the verbal equivalent of a middle finger.

Chris I
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Chris I

I flipped off my coworker’s wife once. It was actually a good conversation starter, since neither of them ride. We’re still friendly.

I wear many hats
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I wear many hats

While riding home from work I once suggested someone perform a sexual act on them-selves, only to see them at work in a professional capacity the next day. Provided that we both said and did things that we weren’t proud of, we elected to ignore the fact that we recognized each other. Since then, its been all thumbs ups and happy waves.

Johnny Bye Carter
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Johnny Bye Carter

If my friend brings that reaction then they’re not my friend anymore.

julia
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julia

I like the idea of a peace sign instead of a middle finger.

My fear is that if a cyclist who is almost hurt by a dangerous driver is too nice about it, that the driver won’t realize that a terrible thing just occurred and their behavior needs to change or someone could DIE.

El Biciclero
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El Biciclero

“…the driver won’t realize that a terrible thing just occurred and their behavior needs to change…”

This is my issue. I’m all for maintaining sanity and peace, but I don’t feel comfortable brushing off the kind of driver behavior that may be “normal” for them, but that they may not realize is unnerving or outright dangerous for those around them Not-In-Cars. When a driver just doesn’t even realize that what they are doing is putting people in danger, or they figure “that’s your problem. I’m not the crazy one carrying kids around on that crazy contraption!” Or drivers that deliberately attempt to “teach me a lesson” (with or without kids on board)—complete with that “suck it” glare a few drivers like to use as they cut me off or pass within inches—there’s gonna be some anger. I guess I still have a ways to go to reach Smile-‘n’-Wave—it still feels too much like tacit endorsement. Maybe thumbs down would work for me in the interim.

mh
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The loud and angry setting on my Orp horn, for as long as it takes the driver to realize that they royally pissed off a human being not in a car.

chezztone
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chezztone

Thumbs down, or wagging finger in disapproval, are other options. They’re not hostile like the middle finger, but unlike the peace sign they show that you object to the person’s action.

Ken S
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Ken S

The other crucial aspect of a thumbs down vs middle finger is conveying that you disapprove of the driver’s action and not the driver, as a person.

sorne
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sorne

The other crucial aspect of a thumbs down vs middle finger is conveying that you disapprove of the driver’s action and not the driver, as a person

or maybe not.

the idea that flipping someone off is “violence” or a “personal attack” is absurd. when the digitus impudicus is issued in response to dangerous behavior it’s unambiguously a way to communicate disapproval rather than a symbol of the antisocial desire to erase someone as a human being.

Glenn Angry Glenn Ross
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Glenn Angry Glenn Ross

I like to just point and stare at them, my whole arm stretched straight out, and not say anything. My “digital” accusation (SWITD) swings ’round to follow them persistently if either of us is in motion. If I’m angry as opposed to just disgusted I’ll just channel it into a blast of hate-chi that shoots out my fingertip. PEW! PEW!

I imagine this to be quite unnerving for them but obviously I have no idea. It’s fun & therapeutic for me though. “J’accuse!”

bikeninja
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bikeninja

When I experience this sort of thing I also try not and react angrily. Instead I contemplate the upcoming end of happy motoring and the grief it will bring these auto-addled scofflaws. I like to think of them in their driveways, little pink fingers clutching their steering wheel, twisting the key as the engine turns over and over never to start again as their days of being able to procure gas is over.

Middle of the Road Guy
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Middle of the Road Guy

Yeah man, we’ve been hearing that story for 20 years.

Johnny Bye Carter
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Johnny Bye Carter

Damn I’m old, I’ve been hearing it almost twice that long.

Ken S
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Ken S

I’ve had really positive experiences with using a thumbs down instead of 1 finger salute.
Driver 1 buzzes within inches of me, I yell and stick out a big thumbs down.
Car 2 passes, leaving more room, and I stick out a thank you thumbs up.
All successive cars pass with an appropriate amount of room.

Small change in gestures that communicates “I’m disappointed and you could do better” instead of “I hate you and want bad things to happen to you”

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

I sometimes use my thumb and middle finger to convey “I’m disappointed and you could do better and I hate you and I want bad things to happen to you”, along with my index finger to emphasize the “you”.

Ken S
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Ken S

Lol. While all of your thoughts would be stated, some data may be lost in transmission due to signal noise…

soren impey
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soren impey

“Try “Wow, someone’s in a hurry” in place of “Slow the f— down!”

I’m glad the alternative works for Madi but I personally find that saying “slow the f*** down” increases my quality of life.

Brian
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Brian

Same. I’m also frequently amused how riled up a sarcastic thumbs-up can make people. It pisses some people off as much as the middle finger, and just makes me laugh.

Middle of The Road Guy
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Middle of The Road Guy

People love to be angry about something.

soren
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soren

No, it’s not just people. The oppression and stress of our car-dominant culture is associated with rage and acting out.

Lo
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Lo

I like to blow a kiss. Keeps em on their toes

pdx2wheeler
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pdx2wheeler

I imaging these driving scofflaws as people in garbage trucks dumping their trash into others lives as they go. I try with every fiber in my being to not let them dump their garbage into my life. I anticipate them, recognize them, avoid them, and get home safe! Nobody is perfect, but there is a sense of pride you can take home with you when you’re the better person in a bad situation. Much better than stewing over it all night, being in a bad mood, and dumping that trash back onto your family and friends…

Matt S.
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Matt S.

Yes, because bicycling is suppose to be more fun and less stressful than driving. If it’s not, we might as well all drive…

El Biciclero
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El Biciclero

As much as the behavior of some drivers on some trips may cause me a little (or more) anger, outrage, whatever—the beauty of using a bike is that I am usually able to “pedal it out” by the time I get where I’m going. Plus, I might even get there faster.

Peter Buck
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Peter Buck

This is all good advice. We can’t always control the environment around us but we can control our reaction to it. My own experience – for a few years I was cycle commuting on 185th Avenue in Beaverton. Traffic is fast and there are lots of driveways and side streets. I found I was often almost in danger from cars entering 185th. I bought a Zounds air horn, figuring drivers would be able to hear me and thereby be alerted to my presence. Every time I beeped that horn represented a risky situation. Pavlov’s dog – I realized I was warning myself more than the drivers. This caused me to react defensively. After awhile, I realized I wasn’t beeping the horn anymore – I’d trained myself to avoid dangerous situations. It is a lesson I will always remember. Slowing down or speeding up a little was all it took for me to avoid the risky situation. I gave the horn to a neighbor who was planning to bicycle in Viet Nam – I no longer needed it.

dan
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dan

Having cycle toured in SE Asia, I would say there’s far more call for a Zounds here than there. There is certainly some exciting driving in SE Asia, but they lack the animus toward cyclists that we have here.

Kittens
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Kittens

These are all great tips.

I have to remind myself daily that I am not the morality police and my enforcing traffic laws will make no difference.

It will only end up with being stressed out and angry at the world.

Daniel Amoni
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Daniel Amoni

Not speaking violently is half the battle. Hopefully Madi’s next article will advise on how to avoid despair after daily witnessing so much lack of regard for human life by drivers. Being on the streets really challenges my attitude towards people.

Alan 1.0
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“Two of the most common types of bike crashes are left hooks: when an oncoming car driver turns left into a person on a bike who was heading straight, and right hooks: when a person turns right, not noticing that there was a person on a bike to their right heading straight.”

Those definitions are ambiguous and seem to be conflating “hooks” and “crosses.” Hooks are where an overtaking vehicle turns across your path (you are on the inside of their turn). Crosses are where an oncoming vehicle turns in front of you (you are on the outside of their turn). On typical two-way streets in drive-on-the-right countries, right hooks are common but left hooks are rare, and left crosses are common but right crosses rare.

rider
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rider

I put a Go Pro on my helmet. Something about knowing I have the jackassery on tape calms me. I also notice, or maybe imagine, that fewer people pass me when I’m doing the speed limit, or 20 feet from a stop sign, or there’s oncoming traffic while I’m wearing the camera. When I have the kids with me I always exclaim, “That’s a very important person who’s time can’t be wasted!” to anyone driving too fast and dangerously.

Johnny Bye Carter
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Johnny Bye Carter

Some drivers will yell at you for being ungrateful if you don’t wave and smile at them for obeying the law.

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

I have literally never heard of that happening in real life.

Opus the Poet
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I have been literally sworn at for being 4th in line at a stop light and not pulling over to let cars behind pass even though I was almost running into the rear bumper of the car in front of me. IOW I was cursed at for existing between cars on my bicycle.

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

That’s completely different than getting yelled at for not thanking someone for doing what they needed to do anyway.

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

While I totally understand your point of view, when you spurn an act of kindness from somebody, it doesn’t always engender positive feelings.

Matt
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Matt

The “act of kindness” may get me killed if I take them up on it, unless all the other people driving choose to follow their lead. So their feelings are not my primary concern in these situations.

El Biciclero
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El Biciclero

Ohhhh. This is a real conundrum for me, especially when toting the kids to school and having to cross a major-ish road with a two-way stop. Frequently, drivers will stop on the main road to let us go. It completely drives me nuts because it most often causes needless delay on the part of everyone, including me. It creates a potentially dangerous situation as there are usually drivers coming from the other direction that we must wait for to be sure they will stop, and there are often left-turning drivers directly across from us that might also dearly love to take advantage of other people “being nice” and leaving a gap. I don’t want to “spurn an act of ‘kindness'”, and I don’t want to get into a wave-off with a driver who thinks they’re being “nice”—but I also don’t want to reinforce contra-legal behavior among drivers or instill it in my kids, and I don’t want to feel pressured to seize a sketchy opportunity to go just because now “people are waiting”. Why can’t we all just follow the law? Oh, that’s right—because we have to all know it first.

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

I dislike the pickle as well. However, since I understand the motivation is entirely positive, I’ve started accepting the yielded ROW, though I do proceed very cautiously. I hope that the driver, seeing my cautious approach, understands the full dimensionality of the situation. I find that approach is much less frustrating for all involved (including myself).

I agree that yelling from 40ft away is unlikely to be productive.

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

Hmmmm…. how did this end up up here?

Q
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Q

“Act of kindness”, please, as if I need help riding my bike. People in cars don’t need to be “nice” they need to follow the rules that were put there in place for them to keep them from killing everyone.

Hello, Kitty
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Hello, Kitty

And yet, despite your protestations, some want to do things they see as being kind, generous, and helpful. Even if they sometimes drive cars and are therefore hateful and despicable beings deserving of nothing but derision and scorn.

The key, I think, is to help people understand what actually is helpful.

Dave
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Dave

Accept what is real-the driver is a lower species than the human

Colin
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Colin

Matt S.
As bicyclists, I don’t think we’re entitled to the front because we can maneuver around.

I’d accept that if you accept the corollary: cars aren’t entitled to overtake people on bikes just because they can travel faster. If I have to queue behind them, they have to queue behind me. A queue is a queue whether it’s moving or stationary. All traffic is a queue.

Pete
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Pete

Not only that but you’re introducing motion into your signaling mechanism, ensuring they better see you… just make sure they don’t mistake it for, “No, you go…”

Brian
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Brian

I have at least a 30% success rate getting drivers (seemingly) to accept the importance of safe driving, by catching up to them and explaining why the maneuver was dangerous. Which, I’m fairly certain is about 30% better than would be the results of using the tips in this article. Smiling and waving for bad behavior? So, reward them for bad driving. I’m not opposed to a non-ragey approach, but if the end result is that the driver didn’t learn any lesson from the encounter then you have contributed to traffic danger by passively allowing it.